The more unsociable people are, the more "advantages" they have. Don't underestimate them

It's not enough to do a good job alone. We need help. But do you really need a group of people to accomplish great things? I don't think so.

Jobs, for example, was fired by the board of directors for disagreeing with senior executives and was not allowed to participate in Apple's R & D and design. In fact, in retrospect, in many cases, those who are "unsocial" seem to be more likely to succeed. So, is there really an inseparable relationship between success and "unsocial"? In fact, the more unsociable people are, the more "advantages" they have. Don't underestimate them.

1. Spend more time enriching yourself

What do we do on weekdays? Dancing with friends? Do you get together with family and friends? Or play games with three or five friends to pass the time? But do you know what unsocial people are doing?

Xiao Liu, a technician of our company, is a typical outsider. He doesn't drink at company parties. If he said he didn't drink, he would never drink. No matter who talks, he doesn't drink. People didn't like him very much, so they didn't call him again in private gatherings.

After working overtime at the weekend, I have a little technical problem. I can only call him. "I was in the library and didn't bring the data to the computer," he said. I'll go back and give it to you. " It turns out that he always studies on weekends. Staying in the library all the time is not just enriching yourself? In the past two years, I have watched him from just entering the company to now being the manager of the technical department. His success is not unreasonable.

When we were kids, we really thought it was shameful to be different. As we grow up, we can make money at work. When we first came into contact with the workplace, we also faced all kinds of puzzles about whether to become team members.

In fact, what we should really be puzzled about is not how to become a group, but how to improve our cooperation ability and make ourselves better and better. Loneliness is the best time for a person. Low quality social interaction is not as good as high quality loneliness.

People who don't fit in with others will be more focused and determined when they are alone. They will continue to make themselves better and stronger. Because they don't need to waste a lot of time on ineffective social interaction, they will cherish the time to learn and improve themselves.

2. The ability of self-awareness

Someone said, "only one person can be himself." Instead of communicating for the sake of a team, it's better to learn to get along with yourself when you know what you want.

Most people can only obtain other people's external self-identity through the sense of existence, but ignore their spiritual recognition. Those who are "unsocial" are used to being alone, so they are more able to face their true selves and understand their true selves. They don't adapt to the crowd, they can't keep thinking independently.

3. Promise is not much, but it works

People who are not sociable are not inarticulate, and they are not easy to promise. They know how to be silent. If you know, stop; If you don't know, don't say it.

Restless people are onlookers. They can always see the truth of events and grasp the development of events. If an unsociable person makes a promise to someone, he will certainly keep it.

Such people are silent. It won't be a boaster, it won't be candid. Because you have confidence in what you say, everything you say is trustworthy and an important foundation for success in life.

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